When Jake and I put up a Q+A on Instagram, most of our questions were about Faith in our relationship. I think we can both agree that we have a lot of growing to do in our Faith, but we have also come a long way! So I wanted to take a moment to share some small but practical tips that have made a difference for us.
Praying out loud and in front of other people (even your spouse) can feel kind of awkward and uncomfortable but it’s an incredible and powerful tool that should not be looked over! We decided to pray as a family every night, and got used to it very quickly. Once you commit to praying together daily, you’ll find that you and your husband will begin to pray for your marriage regularly. It is so sweet hearing Jake pray for our marriage, but after tough day especially, it brings much needed kingdom perspective. (Plus how could I stay mad at him when he’s literally praying for me and our marriage out loud- talk about precious!!)
Together or alone, out loud our in quiet, even and especially when you don’t feel like it, pray for your spouse and pray for your marriage.
Make Church a Real Priority
Church is a non negotiable in our home. We don’t forgo church in lieu of other plans. We make our plans around church. (If we can help it)
Jake’s super lucky that our church has a 5 pm service because he can still golf on a Sunday AND go to church. LOL. But in all seriousness – make it a priority!!!!
(Lovingly) Hold Each Other Accountable
This is huge in our relationship. We do our best to avoid arguments but we don’t let important things “slide.” I could write a lot on this in our marriage but as for how it affects our Faith, we do our best to help each other stray away from sin, and uphold our standards and values. (AKA the look on my face when Jake cusses LOL)
Encourage Each Other
This one is SO KEY!! But it’s also important to note the difference between being pushy and being encouraging.
For example, I encourage Jake by asking him to pray over our meals. A small thing, but this brings one more moment of focus on Jesus during that day.
He encourages me (more so in my hard days) by reminding me of how blessed I am and how loved I am. When I’m upset with myself – he reminds me of what God says about me.
Being an example is another way to encourage your spouse. Jake and I tend to feed off each other because we both desire to bring equal value to our relationship. So if he sees me cleaning and he’s been sitting on his butt all day, he takes note and gets off his booty because he wants to be helpful too. And vice versa.
How this applies to Faith: when I see Jake reading his Bible I am so much more inclined to get into the Word too! Especially as a mama I find it important to do Bible reading and Bible study where my family can see me and be encouraged. There are so many ways that you can encourage each other in a gentle and loving way.
One last quick tip: listen to worship music together. Put it on in your house and in your car.
I hope this was helpful and that you took something away from this post that you can apply to your marriage.
Thank you for stopping by. I hope you have a blessed day!